Do You Need to Quit Your Job to Be Happy?
Updated: Jan 14
TODAY'S TOPIC: DO YOU NEED TO QUIT YOUR JOB TO BE HAPPY?
I often hear, “I need to quit my job” because they feel that is the only path that can lead them out of the feeling of overwhelm. Before you hand in your two-week notice, I ask you to just wait. So many people take years to build their version of their kingdom so before you decide to tear all of your hard work down, let’s talk about things that you can implement at your current job and hopefully correct some of those unhealthy feelings.
ARE YOU UNHAPPY DUE TO YOUR JOB?
To start the conversation of whether you should quit your job to be happy you will really need to sit down and ask yourself, are you happy? Are you unhappy? If you are unhappy, is it because of your job? If you are feeling overwhelmed or your job is not bringing out the best of you then this is a time to check-in and take a deep breath.
WHAT DO YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY?
Now that we have answered the first question “do you need to quit your job to be happy” let us move on to the next question. What is it that I need to be happy? Of course, this may take some soul searching and time to sit down and reflect however, you can start asking yourself this question now. I had been in the corporate world for about five years before I experienced my own personal burnout episode. I was working crazy hours, eating bad food with no certain routine, and I just overall felt horrible. Before I decided to quit my job, my body decided to quit on me, and I ended up in the hospital. I was embarrassed by this and did not tell anyone for about a year. Not even my family. I do not want that for anyone so that is why I am here today to help prevent what happened to me, happen to you. With all of that said, I did not quit my job. I realized that even if I quit this one job I knew there was a good chance that this same overwhelmed feeling could happen again. I knew that my personality at that time had no boundaries and I said yes to everyone, everything, and gave my all in every aspect. The change needs to start within me, not within my workplace.
WHAT IS THE COST OF YOU STAYING AT YOUR CURRENT JOB?
Is there a chance that what you are experiencing now still exists if you went to another job? I encourage you to write down the cost of staying. This does not just stop at the financial aspects but for your physical, emotional, and mental health. Take note of the symptoms you may be experiencing right now. For me, I had adult acne, hives, burning red eyes, and depression. Overwhelm can look vastly different for each individual so it is important to recognize what that may look like for you personally.
THREE TECHNIQUES TO IMPLEMENT BEFORE QUITTING YOUR JOB
When I hit my lowest point and decided to make a change, I implemented these three mindset techniques to pull myself out of a place of overwhelm and into happiness.
See the best in others and let them know: This is not an easy one and it may be challenging for some, but it is so important to lead with kindness to allow happiness in your heart. Truth is, it is easy to see the worst in others and spread that vision around to everyone. It is not our strongest attributes as humans but if you recognize it and make a conscious effort to correct it you will find that you feel more peace. Do not abuse the senses of your ears and tongue, speak kindly to those who even challenge you and let them know.
Take a daily tally of your blessings: Sharing daily gratitude with yourself and others can heal relationships.
Be tolerant: Frustration and anger build up and when you are tolerant for too long you tend to explode at some point. I am challenging you to be more tolerant. I understand that frustration and anger but it does not serve you to explode. Just because you let those feelings out does not mean you are letting them out in a productive way. Find healthy alternatives to releasing those feelings such as a yoga class.
TAKE ACTION BEFORE YOU QUIT YOUR JOB
Here is my invitation to you, take responsibility. What is happening to you could be happening for you. It is so easy to place blame on bosses and co-workers but maybe you are not setting the proper boundaries for yourself. Maybe you are allowing yourself to be taken advantage of which is adding to your burnout. I am not suggesting that you should not quit your job, I am suggesting that you make a shift in yourself before taking that leap. There is no guarantee that the next job will be better and going back after you leave is not always easy. Implement these three techniques and take note of how you feel after a day, a week, a month, and so on and so forth.
Disclaimer: If you are experiencing any type of abuse, harassment, or discrimination and nothing is being done to offer you a safe environment then yes, you do need to quit. That is not a situation that needs a mental shift to help bring you happiness but an actual hostile work environment. If you do not know where to turn, please reach out and I will give you all the resources I have available. You do not have to and should not tolerate any form of abuse, harassment, or discrimination.